Meet me on www.TiannaLeigh.com – new website and blog!

Hello darlings!

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I’ve created a new website and blog over on www.tiannaleigh.com which is where all my new posts and inspiration will be going from now on! Let’s keep in touch and please follow me there!

Email: tianna@tiannaleigh.com 
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Love, TL

Why Going to Bali was the Best Decision of my Life

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For 6 months I’d been saying “I’m going to Bali in November to write my book!” I think I got desensitized to the phrase and it didn’t really start to set in until I was on my way. Right now; a mere 4 days since I left the magical island of Ubud, Bali; it feels somewhat dreamlike. Every day that I wake up in my own home; (thankfully!), I still wonder: “Was it all just a dream?” Yes; it was THAT good. When I was one out of approximately three hundred applicants to be selected to go on Mastin Kipp’s Writer Mastermind in November 2015; I was beyond thrilled. I was finally going to get to write my book (memoir); alongside one of my inspirations. Never, could I have imagined the profound experiences, healing, love, belief, clarity and the soul connections I’d make along the way. This was a personal growth, healing, lifelong sisterhood being born disguised as a “writer’s retreat”. Although, we all did create what we were on a mission to create or created something completely different than what we’d expected; that was just the cherry on top!

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Minutes after completing my book on day 23! Also my God daughter’s birthday in the states!

So, while it’s still fresh in my mind; mosquito bites still itching; still smelling the burning incense from Bali and still hearing roosters and lizards in my head – I simply have to share my life changing experience that is living in Ubud, Bali for a month; a month I’ll never forget. I got on the plane to LA; no big deal; I’ve done this before, but I did check a big ass suitcase; so this must be real. Onward! Next, I have to find the International Terminal which was quite the “5 minute walk” through some crazy construction. Finally; I was there. Gosh; even the freakin’ terminal is like a different world. Okay, Cathay Pacific; there you are! Get all checked in and I have my boarding passes from LA to Hong Kong and Hong Kong to Denpasar, Bali. It’s getting real now! I was hearing different languages over the announcements. Cool! I start to board my first international flight and as I start to see the pods in the “first class” section; I’m like “Holy schnikees! Are these how the seats are on these planes?! That’s freaking amazing!” Continue walking; “No, dummy; of course not!” I chuckle at myself because yes, I do think silly things sometimes! I continued on to my “economy” seat 59A – alright; there’s my window seat! Oh and the flight attendants are all Asian and are stunningly beautiful. Of course they speak Chinese too which was the very beginning of my trip around the world. Well, it was about 10PM so I was thinking it was perfect timing to wind down and try to sleep; as much as possible on this 16 hour flight. Phew, that’s a long time! I used my travel pillow and the blanket they provided and off to sleep I drifted. I wake up to hear “Chicken and Rice or something I couldn’t understand” Chicken and Rice please. I reply. You get these cute little trays with full on meals and you got chopsticks! J It was a pretty good food and I drifted back off to sleep shortly after that. I slept the majority of the flight but anytime someone was coming around offering drinks or food; I’d wake up to their voices.

We arrived in Hong Kong around 7AM. My sleep schedule felt like it was right on schedule. I saw a Starbucks but the line was ridiculously long so I just sat at my gate. My flight was going to take off for Denpasar, Bali in two hours. I went on search for a Sprite with no luck and no one who could speak English. Hmm. I’ll just survive without. Through our writer’s retreat private Facebook group; myself and another writer figured out that we were on the same flight from Hong Kong. We connected at the gate and started chatting about our stories and how we had gotten “here”. I was convinced we were going to be delayed or stuck in Hong Kong since about 5 other people including Mastin and the three writing coaches had been stuck for a couple of days by then, but nope, smooth sailing for all my flights! Ketrena and I boarded our flight and we were off! This was only a four or five hour flight so it went by pretty fast. We landed and I immediately took a picture! Even the airport structures looked different. We waited for our luggage and we joked that I could’ve fit someone in my bag and I probably could have, but I didn’t know what all was needed! We had to put our luggage on yet another scanning device before going through customs and Ketrena joked that maybe she should claim her apple. We had no idea! There were signs in other languages but some definitely had pictures of fruits. LOL! I got through with no problem but she did get pulled aside; I can’t even remember for what but it WASN’T the apple! HA! Next, we had to look for the guy with “The Daily Love” sign; no problem! We turn the corner and there were literally like 100 people holding different signs; large, small, in hands and some on large sticks. Oh my! We started scanning for “The Daily Love” and finally located one. We made our way around the wall into the sea of sign holders and found another guy holding “The Daily Love” sign; we were so confused! We were then ushered to Agung; who would become our local tour guide and go to guy! We were waiting for others for a bit and I was taking in the hustle and bustle of the airport. It was so busy oh and did I mention the INSTANT I got off the plane I was like “WHOA HUMIDITY!” It was so warm and sticky even in the airport; whoa; this will take some getting used to. We; Ketrena, myself, Jen and Linda all get into the vehicle with our bags and start our journey to Ubud. I couldn’t possibly sleep! I was taking it all in. We were on the other side of the road; the driver was on the other side of the car; there were statues and magical looking buildings left and right. Oh and motor scooters galore going left, right and all around the vehicle, but thank goodness we had air conditioning! Hallelujah! Ketrena and I were oohing and aweing at everything. We chuckled about the McDonald’s, KFC and Dunkin Donuts we saw on the way. Even in Bali? No way! Yes way.

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Denpasar airport with all the signs

 

We arrived at our destination or so we thought and we went down this very narrow path with the vehicle. I honestly don’t know how we fit, but I’d come to find out that’s the Bali way; everything ebbs and flows seamlessly. The other three ladies were told to follow a gentleman to one hotel and I was to be at the other. Hmm, okay? I’m standing there with my big bag in the alleyway in Bali, Indonesia with three men that can’t speak English. I just stood there hoping someone would come retrieve me. Finally, a nice gentleman did just that. He picked up my bag (poor kid!) and took me to my hotel; Yoga Barn. I checked in by filling out a perforated post it sized form and he took me to my room right around the corner. He proceeded to unlock the actual lock on the door and told me “You’re room 7; you must remember where your room is because there are no room numbers” Good thing I’m right next to the reception desk; LOL! Got it! He gives me the tour of the room and I start to get settled. I take in the room. Two twin beds; I’d have a roommate. She had moved in already as her stuff was in the room. I found a note that welcomed us and told me where to meet for the Welcome Dinner. It said it was right next door so there I went; to find my way. Anyone who knows me knows how terrifying directions are to me. I had no choice. I went to the restaurant and the very nice Balinese workers started asking me if I was meeting my friends. I said yes, but I’ve never met them and don’t know what they look like. They must’ve looked at me like I’m nuts. It was the truth though! I’d only seen Facebook photos of these people I’d be spending my next month with. Boy oh boy! I go upstairs and downstairs and I get handed a menu. I’m overwhelmed. Where is everyone?! Back to home base I go! I leave the restaurant and head over to my hotel room again. I connect to the Wi-Fi and find out the welcome dinner was re-scheduled to the next night but that the ladies were at Alaya (Pentani) right next door also. Little did I know I spend many a meals here. Great! I head out again on a venture to find my Bali family. On the way; I run into a lost Katie with Lisa (my writing coach) and Laurie (writing coach); so I meet my writing coach Lisa unexpectedly and she points me towards Alaya. Hooray! I find a table of ladies and say “Daily Love?!?” They say “yes!” YAY! I’m so relieved. Finally; people! I started giving everyone hugs and was so excited. I look at the menu; oh crap. What is this stuff?! So begins my adventures of trying to find things I’ll be able to eat between my bland palette and my stomach condition. Meh! I go with bottled water (ALWAYS!) and sorbet. I know what that is! Ha! I meet my roommate and a whole bunch of other ladies. There is a traditional Balinese band playing that night. It was awesome and I was stoked! I was here! In Bali!

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Balinese band the first night!

That night I learned about putting the mosquito net aka “cocoon” around you while you sleep. It keeps you “safe” from mosquito bites and lizards falling on your head. No joke. Breakfast is at Garden Kafe at the Yoga Barn. You turn in your voucher for the particular date with your selections and hand it in to one of the sweet girls that works at the café. They would immediately learn our names and make us feel so at home. I also was diligent about putting mosquito repellant and lavender oil on. Mosquitos like to eat me alive in Arizona so I figured it would be the same in Bali where mosquitos are aplenty! I managed to get about 10 bites the whole time I was there thanks to these tactics! I was so thankful. Anyway – Day one, a few of us went out exploring on the streets of Bali near our hotel. It was a different world indeed. You had to be very careful on the sidewalks. It’s sometimes a balancing act on the tiles and stepping over large holes. You just have to be very mindful as you walk because there are tons of “shiny” things that will catch your attention; from all the colorful dresses, jewelry, statues, motor scooters and beautiful Balinese children on the path.

The next day was our first surprise excursion. We meet in the Yoga Barn parking lot and hop into the drivers cars and off we go! It was a water temple that has been there since the 11th century. It’s an amazing water purification process where you get into the water with the local Balinese families in traditional Balinese sarongs and dip yourself under the pure waters from the multiple fountains throughout the temple. You can make it religious, spiritual, non-religious; it’s completely up to you. All I know is that it was magical. Think Carrie Underwood’s song “Something in the Water”. You could FEEL the healing powers of the water and to be experiencing this with the local people was even more enriching. That night we went to dinner as a group and we started breaking the ice with each other and getting to know each other better. This was simply just the beginning.

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The water temple

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You could feel the healing in the water – simply divine

During the first few days; I’d try a new writing spot trying to take in the sights but I’d easily be distracted by another retreat member or just taking in the scenery or people watching. At the Garden Kafe; I’d see people from all over. I’d hear different languages, different accents, different attires; everything. Everyone was open and friendly though. It was a nice change of pace. If there’s room at your table; anyone can join. Sometimes they strike up a conversation; sometimes they don’t. You can feel the energy of Ubud. It is very loving, welcoming, healing, and serene. Everything is slowed down; even with their crazy traffic; it just flows. You smell flowers and incense everywhere. There are butterflies circling you on every path you walk and huge bumble bees in the flowers.

The Balinese people are the best part though. They are simply divine. They welcome you with open arms and treat you like you’re royalty. You feel seen, wanted and appreciated at every single meal. They pause to look you in the eye and SEE you. They love to have conversations with you and are always smiling! It was so wonderful to be around such a loving and amazingly gracious culture. Seriously some of the best smiles I’d ever received in my life. They appreciated my smiles too; you could just feel the love. I always felt like the most beautiful, welcomed, princess! They truly give you the 5 star treatment. Did I mention all the relaxing you can do in Bali?! Massages, manicures, pedicures, reflexology…the skies the limit. The Balinese will always live in my heart.

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Beautiful Balinese woman

As the days went on; I started finding that as long as I could escape into my music in my headphones and find a spot where I could write alone; I was golden. I was laser focused on finishing my book. The more I wrote; the more I wanted to write. I loved it and seeing what was coming out on the pages was thrilling. I can’t wait to read it myself for the editing process! We had a very easy schedule. The earliest we ever had to be anywhere was at 2PM on any given day; THAT I could handle. It was so easy and breezy. I could ease into my day; have a late breakfast; write; get ready; have dinner (at Alaya or Yoga Barn a lot); write. It was simply lovely. I was also given some of the warmest and loving hugs EVERY DAY in Bali. We were truly a bunch of love bugs and I couldn’t get enough!

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Jodie and I having a moment at sunrise

We had seminars with Mastin Kipp twice a week where we dove deep into ourselves and getting clarity on many things. They were powerful and were part of the reason our “Bali Scribe Tribe” connected on such deep levels. We had already connected via Facebook before the actual retreat but the more we spent time together; the more connected we got. There were no masks. There were no cliques. There were no rules either. We simply authentically connected and would run into each other during a meal or on the many stairs of Ubud and would have just the right conversations we needed. It was divinely led no doubt. You can sense the connection to God and the Earth in Bali more than anything I’d ever experienced. It’s like God is there in the flowers; in the breeze; in the clouds and sunlight and of course that’s true anywhere, but in Bali it’s on another level. Which reminds me when thunderstorms roll through Bali; holy cow; no joke either! Michon and I would say we were traumatized from the storm that rolled in on like day two.

Our second excursion was a hike through some amazing rice paddies. We had a mini seminar with fresh coconuts cut off the tree once we reached our destination. Agung told us the story of the Balinese always striving to be “humble rice” in relation to the rice fields. The symbolism and gratefulness the Balinese have for EVERYTHING is beyond amazing. I feel lucky to have met them. It makes me so much MORE grateful for everything I have and to live in such abundance. Our third excursion was to a BEAUTIFUL locally known Bali beach. It was stunning and not very many people were there. It was so relaxing and a day I’ll never forget. I found a couple of treasures on the beach that day that I’ll display in my home as a reminder; that the experience was REAL! Our fourth and final excursion was getting up at 4:00 AM to reach our mountaintop destination to watch the sunrise. It was worth it and was absolutely stunning. It was the perfect way to symbolize our entire trip; we had truly been reborn. Old beliefs shed, new actions in place, lots of love in our hearts for ourselves and others…and so much more. We created a safe, loving, bubble of sorts and the way everyone showed up for each and every person was nothing short of amazing and beautiful to witness.

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Michon and I at the rice paddies enjoying our fresh coconuts

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On the most beautiful beach in Bali

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Sunrise in Bali

We spent Thanksgiving in Bali where we were invited to Agung’s home. It was absolutely stunning and we heard about the history of the home that had been in the family for generations. It was even complete with its own temple. Agung has four children; and the two youngest are twin girls. They were dressed in traditional Balinese dresses and make-up and before, during and after dinner they performed traditional Balinese dances for us. It was amazing and surreal. I was celebrating Thanksgiving; a holiday that is typically filled with some sadness; filled with so much joy. We all went around and shared what we were thankful for and that was one of those most touching parts of the entire month.

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Heading to Bali; I thought for sure I’d finish writing my book and that I’d make a few connections, but never did I realize that I would make so many lifelong connections. I learned to see myself (with makeup and without!) through the eyes of the Balinese and the amazing women and one man I had the privilege of spending a life changing month in Bali with. Through them I was finally able to see what all my friends have always seen in me back home. Someone who is RIGHT where they should be; someone who SHOULD be sharing this powerful story and someone who IS going places! I’m forever grateful and forever changed. I’ll always have a special place in my heart for Ubud, Bali and I simply can’t wait to return again someday soon. I’m going to hold on to the “Bali bliss high” as long as possible; although, I can feel it fading; I will hold that peaceful feeling in my heart forever. Thank you all for helping me find myself and for helping me see what one “yes!” could do for my life. I’m so grateful and excited for what is to come. This is just the beginning!

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Hugs and Loves,

Tianna Leigh

Wishes for the Soul

I’m going to Bali to write my book!

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Let me repeat that sentence “I’m going to Bali to write my book.” That’s a pretty fantastic sentence if you ask me and still very surreal. When I was 16 I felt called to start writing my “book” about my life story. It started off as a therapeutic journey just to get my thoughts out on paper. As the years went on and life got even more interesting; I felt that part of my calling was to write my life story in the form of a book. I love writing, I definitely feel as though I have a compelling yet inspiring story to tell and I want to help others by sharing what I’ve learned (so far!)

Not surprisingly, I’ve always been drawn to quotes, personal growth and focusing on positive thinking in general. Throughout the years I’ve read many amazing blogs, books and quotes but it wasn’t until around 2010 when my friend Ashley sent me an email from “The Daily Love” that one of my now inspirations came into my life. I immediately subscribed to “The Daily Love” and started sharing it with other friends, who in turn started subscribing too. I was hooked on the founder/blogger Mastin Kipp. It was like every day he was speaking directly to me (of course everyone else feels that way too!) but his messages were just so dead on. It was like he was my own personal coach showing up in my inbox every day. His words and messages resonated with me to my core.

The Daily Love Writer’s Mastermind Retreat in Bali

Mastin then announced that The Daily Love was going to tour around the country on the “Enter the Heart” tour. I was at first disappointed to see they weren’t planning on stopping by in Phoenix, Arizona (where I live) but within a few weeks a Phoenix date appeared! I immediately invited a couple of my closest girlfriends to come with me to the event. I even told myself if no one could attend with me; I’d go it alone! The event was led by Mastin and a Kundalini yoga teacher, Sat Siri. It was a five hour event to teach us how to take the journey from our head to our heart. It was truly a magical night! I must admit I was a little geeked out knowing that I was going to see Mastin in person and might (eek!) even get to meet him! I did just that right after the event. I met him, told him I’d been following The Daily Love since the beginning stages, asked if I could take a picture with him and told him I’d be writing a blog about the event. He asked me to send him the blog and I was honored! I wrote my blog on the Enter the Heart tour and sent a link to Mastin via Facebook. I did see that he “read” the message and even that was exciting for me. Little did I know that on a couple Sunday mornings later; I’d be lying in my bed reading The Daily Love and voila! Mastin called me out by name and linked his blog to my blog! Holy moly! I jumped out of bed so excited; I couldn’t believe it. Mastin Kipp just featured ME, Tianna Leigh, in HIS blog! Ahh! This was such a huge moment for me.

Next, Mastin would write his first book “Growing into Grace.” In fact him featuring my blog that day felt like a “God shot” for my life as Mastin refers to in his book “Growing into Grace.” Mastin went on a book tour and one of his stops was Phoenix so of course I was there! I bought my ticket and I went alone. It was another night of profound conversation and raw emotion. You can read more about my experience at the book tour event here.  Again, I was able to take a photo with Mastin and have him sign my book. As I read the book; I couldn’t help but feel similarities in his story and mine. It was yet more pull and motivation for me to get my booty in gear and write my own book already!

A few weeks ago I saw an email come through from The Daily Love that said “Writer’s Mastermind Retreat in Bali” and it peaked my interest. I clicked through the email where it described the event and said they were taking applications but that only 30 people would be selected to go to Bali with Mastin, Jenna (Mastin’s love of his life) and two writing coaches for a 28 day writer’s mastermind retreat. The purpose of the retreat would be to complete your first “shitty rough draft” of the book or screen play you’ve had in your mind but just haven’t executed it just yet. I thought well, this is amazing and the perfect opportunity so why don’t I apply? I will tell you that it was a long and rigorous application written by Mastin himself. I took the time to complete the application and hit submit. The next step of the process was to speak with Jenna over the phone for the second part of the interview process. A couple of days later I received an email that said they had reviewed my application and that I needed to pick a time on Jenna’s calendar to chat. I looked at her calendar and to my dismay there were ZERO spots left! I emailed them back and let them know. Unbeknownst to me Jenna had received my email and had written me back but it ended up in my spam folder! Super lucky for me (as I never ever check my spam folder) I just happen to check it for something else and boom, there was the email from Jenna! I wrote her back immediately letting her know what had happened and she wrote me back to let me know that she had opened up some more time on her calendar and that I should choose a time that worked for me. Oh my goodness! There was spot open the very next day that worked perfectly for my schedule. Things were starting to come together. Could this really be happening?! YES! I hopped on the phone with Jenna and we had a great conversation. I totally felt a connection to her too! Once we wrapped up our conversation she said I would hear back one way or the other within a couple of days. So, I waited. During my waiting period, I was repeating in my head “If this is for my greatest good; I will be chosen. If it is not in my greatest good; I will NOT be chosen.”

Will you help me get to Bali? Go Fund Me

June 23, 2015 at 9:04 PM the email came through with the subject line “Important email! Congrats, Tianna Leigh! You¹ve been accepted to come to Bali!” Oh my goodness! Luckily my friend Kristen was actually at my house when I got the email so I got to share my excitement with her. It was surreal and I couldn’t believe it! My best friend Jessica had known about the application process from the beginning so she had been on the edge of her seat too. I sent her a screen shot of the acceptance email and she immediately called me. She was on speaker with Kristen and I and the three of us were ecstatic! It was a fun and amazing moment to share with great friends! I also received a call from my best friend Chris from Wyoming and I could hear in his voice his pure excitement and awe. Needless to say; it was a GREAT night for Tianna Leigh!

Without family or a partner to help me financially; my best friend Jessica actually had the great idea of starting a Go Fund Me to help me make this dream a reality without having to end up on the pole. 😉 I’d never heard of the process before but Jessica is convinced that enough people believe and love me enough; that we may be able to get me some help! So far, slow and steady and I’ve been honored and humbled by all of the love, support and donations received so far. I can’t believe this is happening! I’m going to freakin’ Bali people! Ahh!!

I’ve been saying “I want to use a passport” “I NEED to write this whole book” “I will collaborate with Mastin Kipp someday” well…ask and you shall receive?! So, there’s my story of how I’ve been selected to go to Bali and what a huge honor it is to me. Thank you for sharing in my excitement! I look forward to sharing my book with the world sooner than later! Here’s a link to the actual retreat!

X’s and O’s

Tianna Leigh

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How to love your in-laws; even if they aren’t so lovable

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This is a blog I wrote for my client: Boy Keeps Girl

Marriage is such a beautiful part of life! How amazing is it when two people meet, fall in love and decide to dedicate their lives to one another? True love is the most magnificent “gift” you can give or receive. There are no words to describe it. A couple’s journey is so much fun. Two people start to date, fall in love, get engaged and then start planning the wedding! Once the wedding day is over; it’s time to start your life together as husband and wife! How fantastically exciting. When you begin your life as husband and wife; you are essentially blending two families together as one. This can prove to be difficult in certain circumstances.

Marriage tips: How to get along with your in laws

First off, you have to be grateful that the in-laws exist merely for the simple fact they’ve helped to create your soulmate; the love of your life! That alone is reason enough to make it all work. Certain people get very lucky by way of in-laws and receive non meddling, drama free, happy and healthy in laws. Other people on the other hand might not feel so warm and fuzzy about the in laws. No worries; I’m here with some tips!

The in-law files

  • It all boils down to respect doesn’t it? Start with that. Respect your in laws no matter what. Remember that they really do have yours and your spouse’s best interest at heart.
  • Schedule quality time with them. Take the time to have real conversations and get to know each other. You’re family now after all!
  • Speak your truth honestly and effectively. No one can read minds so it’s important to keep those communication lines open.
  • We all strive to make the best decisions we can with the information we have at hand. Try to remember that the in-laws have their own set of ideas based on their generation and/or how they’ve been brought up. Be patient if their ideas differ from yours.
  • Always treat your spouse with respect; especially when their parents are around. Even though you may be having a disagreement; it’s important to maintain your private life. Your in laws don’t need to know EVERYTHING (even if they think they do). Fight fairly and privately.
  • Be grateful and thankful for where you are. You’re a newlywed starting off your new life with your love after all! Be thankful for your in laws; some people don’t have any family and yours has just grown. How lucky are you!

Hugs and Loves,

Wishes for the Soul

Tianna Leigh 

Be vulnerable; not closed off

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It seems that whenever we’re down and out; right smack dab in the middle of having our hearts broken in one way or another we tend to want to close ourselves off. It seems like the most logical option. If we don’t open up; we can’t possibly feel this hurt right? Not particularly. Those of us who can be and are possibly by nature “vulnerable” with others tend to have amazing connections; the flip side to that is that we also endure painful heartbreak. When you love so big you risk hurting big too. Being vulnerable means that we show us as our authentic selves, we share stories about our lives, we take the walls down and look for the best in every person. It is amazing when a vulnerable person finds someone who sees our unique spark and decides to nurture the relationship. It is also NOT so amazing when a vulnerable person finds a manipulative or emotionally closed off person.

Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness

As us vulnerable people go through life; there will be people who will appreciate and nurture us for who we are and we will make some of the most amazing connections with people. Will there be times when we want to close ourselves off thinking that is the solution to not getting hurt? Absolutely. Is that the correct approach? Absolutely not. Do not dare change or mold yourself to fit in with people who are too uncomfortable with you being open. Do not close off part of who you intrinsically are; it’s the worst thing you could possibly do.

Keep opening up and loving and being beautiful you! The right people will appreciate and love you for who you are. Period.

Hugs and Loves,

Wishes for the Soul

Tianna Leigh

Learning how to practice self-love

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When you look in the mirror…what do you see? What do you focus on? Do you see the freckles you cover up with your make-up? Do you see the circles under your eyes? Do you see a double chin? Perhaps some blemishes? Instead, how about noticing your beautiful eyes that allow you to see this magnificent world we live in? What about that awesome smile that makes the people around you happy? Do you see the amazing qualities that make you; YOU? How about instead of focusing on the “flaws” you take the challenge to focus on all of the things that you do like about yourself versus tearing yourself apart? The more good things you focus on the more your self-love will grow.

 LEARNING HOW TO LOVE YOURSELF

I believe that all women are beautiful and should embrace their exclusive beauty. Women can be their own worst critics, but as a woman it’s especially important to practice self-love. In our opinion a woman who accepts and loves herself just as she is; is a force to be reckoned with. Think about it…if you accept and love yourself (and all your self-proclaimed flaws) then what anyone else says or thinks really doesn’t matter; all that matters is what you think about yourself.  Does accepting yourself mean that you will be perfect and not make any mistakes? Fat chance! The beautiful thing about your unique journey is that you will make mistakes; lots of them! I’m here to tell you that those mistakes will be some of your greatest lessons, so go ahead make lots!:-P

IN ORDER TO EMPOWER YOURSELF AS A WOMEN THERE ARE SOME KEY THINGS YOU CAN DO:

  • Stop comparing yourself to others! Each and every one of us is unique.
  • Stop wishing you could be something you’re not. Some women aren’t meant to have straight hair or be a size zero, and thank goodness for that cause what a boring world it would be if we were all the same.
  • Surround yourself with like-minded and positive people who are aligned with your life plan and goals.
  • Start a gratitude journal. Practice focusing on all of the wonderful things in your life and you will keep attracting more.
  • Learn to forgive yourself easily.
  • Love yourself more than anyone else does and no one will be able to knock you down.

The world can be a cruel place but if you learn to focus on the beauty within; everything else will seem a little rosier.

Sending you lots of love,

Tianna Leigh

Be-YOU-tiful Blogger at Le Boudoir Studio

Wishes for the Soul

 

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Sometimes your chosen family is the best family

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Over the years the topic of family has always been a sensitive subject for me, as I’m sure some of you can relate. When questions would arise around where my family was I would simply reply out of habit that “I don’t really have a “family.” Although that is pretty true in the literal sense; it’s SO not true! I actually have family members coming out of my ears! What do I mean by that? I have tons of members of MY family  that are simply chosen family and sometimes that’s the best family you can have. Of course this isn’t meant to discount any REAL family members, but the topic of chosen family is great!

I’ve always found solace with my friends aka my family. Sometimes when you don’t have the biological family stuff down you will find that you overcompensate with friendships. I would say this is the case for me. Luckily for me; I’ve created the most amazing family I could ever dream of having. I believe in setting standards for the quality of a person you will “allow” in your inner circle. This means that just because you’ve had to tolerate some bullshit from your family simply out of “obligation” because they’re “blood related”; does NOT mean you have to tolerate any bullshit from your friends or your chosen family. Set the standard high for the kind of people you want in your life and the right people will show up…and stay.

“What you put up with you end up with ~ Mastin Kipp”

Families have their ups and downs and your chosen family will be no different. Life is an interesting journey (to say the least!) You’ve got to have your people; a support system, to get through those ups and downs. Let’s face it, the blood related family may not be able, willing or capable of being there for you in your time of need, but members of your chosen family will be. Find your people, be thankful for them and nurture those relationships. Sometimes they will be the only people standing by your side.

Having a chosen family means that you get to have different experiences and viewpoints since your family is full of so many different and awesome people! I absolutely love my chosen family and I wouldn’t be where I am today without them. I love my chosen family!

Dear Chosen Family,
Thank you for allowing me to be a part of your family. Thank you for allowing me into your homes; especially around the holidays. Thank you for standing by my side when my world has fallen apart. Thank you for supporting me, loving me and for giving me advice. Thank you for the laughs, the cries, and the many conversations. Thank you for making me an Auntie so many nieces and a few nephews! Thank you for the hugs and words of encouragement. Thank you for helping me celebrate my successes and for sharing some of my most special moments with me. Without all of you; my family, I wouldn’t be where or who I am today. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

Hugs and Loves,
Wishes for the Soul
Tianna Leigh